Can I just say that I love Facebook and the internet? Love love love! Recently a friend posted as her status:
more telling than how people treat their loved ones is how they treat those they are in opposition to…that is ones true self.
I sat with this for a few minutes, and my Higher Self said, “Yes, kind of. There is no such thing as opposition.” Another friend asked me to explain, and this post was born.
In our experience of our worlds, we project our beliefs on everything and everyone. Pretty much all of us are raised to believe that there are enemies. We then see the world through those lenses, that our tribe is right, and the other tribes are a threat to our existence.
But really, they’re not. The other tribes believe the same thing. God is always on our side. Every side. No one says “I am the evil, the wrong, the hater.” So when I feel the dance of opposition, my task is to look inside and see what it’s activating. That’s the treasure. That is the beginning to finding there really isn’t an opposition – someone is triggering my fears for my survival.
When I no longer “oppose”, then the “other side” has nothing to root in.
From C. G. Jung:
If you imagine someone who is brave enough to withdraw all his projections, then you get an individual who is conscious of a pretty thick shadow. Such a man has saddled himself with new problems and conflicts. He has become a serious problem to himself, as he is now unable to say that *they* do this or that, *they* are wrong, and *they* must be fought against. He lives in “The House of Gathering.” Such a man knows that whatever is wrong in the world is in himself, and if he only learns to deal with his own shadow he has done something real for the world. He has succeeded in shouldering at least an infinitesimal part of the gigantic, unsolved social problems of our day.
The shadow, the part that activates in me in a visceral way below the heart, is the indicator that I am seeing from projection. Maybe I can win the argument, pass the law, but has anything really changed? No. I am still me, the other is still my opponent. Same. And in our culture of majority rule, it is the others who are a threat to our existence. The pendulum can swing either way, whichever side has more members, whoever is louder.
This, my friends, is a call to unity, a taking back of our power. Wrongs call for righting from our place of our greatest integrity, and from the place of compassion for our sisters and brothers, rather than from hating and pushing against our “enemies.” We already know what that dance reaps. Are we brave enough to withdraw our projections? Are we ready to create a new world based on a new way of being?